Meta meta knowledge

I AM trying to simplify issues. I almost always break them down to their fundamentals. I am hoping to have a set of fundamentals figured out at some point in my life that consistently help understand most issues and find solutions.

I am also trying to develop a framework of looking at most issues that help plug in all different kinds of perspectives on an issue in such a way that it's easy and quick to see the whole picture. Opinions/perspectives are always limited and I am interested in more than just my perspective.

I want to learn about relationships between different perspectives.

(In doing so, I can't help but personally shed ineffective perspectives, and so I don't know if I'd be able to keep them in the framework. But I guess I could keep its fundamentals in sight.)

I am functioning from this belief that a framework is actually possible - this should be conscious.

Time will tell how impossible this task is.

Infatuation/Limerance

In speaking with a few people in love, specifically one I spend hours every week with, hearing pretty much every thought (conscious) that crosses this person's mind, I can't help but be awed by the craziness of infatuation. It's really something. Nothing else seems to come close to it.

(I don't think I have come across people this infatuated before, or at least anyone verbalizing so many of their thoughts.)

And of course my mind keeps going back to this part in Love Actually:

The entire conversation is amazinggg!

What drives you

What drives you
in life
to take action?

Is it a sense of purpose,
desire to make life better
Desire to make others' life better

Is it your work
Does it perpetuate passion
Does it make you come alive

Is it your loved-ones, your parents, your children
Their well-being,
or their expectations?

What drives you
Is it the possibility of  failure
Or the fear that you just wont measure up?

What is it?
Your insecurities
That make you crave higher status, more money
Makes you believe all will be "well", if only, if only!

Or is it your life's painful events
That make you want to escape
and believe they never happened.

What is it that drives you?

I don't understand 'true love'.

If parental love is the epitome of love, my parents are vulnerable people limited by their own experiences.

(And I love them for that.)

Compassion probably is the ultimate highest value.


I keep coming back to this. Attachment is what keeps relationships going, but not what keeps them healthy. Attachment that is obsessive earlier in romantic attractions. Attachment is the flip side of the pain of losing; a family member, a good friend, a loved one. It has biological bases. The most highly valued form of love in our society is biological attachment.

Peace

I was driving to work this morning, with radio playing loudly in the car. A thought came to me and I needed to pay attention to it, so I turned the radio off. As soon as I turned the radio off, I noticed the almost hail like ice pellets falling against the windshield. And then the moving cars. I realized everything was moving, but everything was still. For that moment, all the cars going East on 401, both express and collector, and all the cars going West were moving at about 70km/h.

No one was rushing. No one was faster or slower than anyone else. It seemed like we were all driving at the same speed. It lasted for longer than a moment. It was a weird moment of peace. It felt like it was a coordinated effort.

I don't know if that was a moment of oneness. I didn't feel merged into them, didn't lose my sense of self, but we were all on the same road, it was loud yet peaceful. Like the sound of rainfall, like everyone on the road was enjoying the sound of the rainfall.